Has the trauma of a Divorce or Relationship ending or Unhealed Childhood experiences affected how you are feeling about yourself these days?
I’ve been thinking about self esteem and how it can get squashed in our lives. As women we tend to be people pleasers and tend to take care of others over ourselves.
This can contribute to lowering feeling good about ourselves when a major change happens in our lives.
If divorce has come to you, it may have you feeling that you’re a loser, or a failure or not good enough or unlovable or made a terrible mistake.
I have been there, in that dark place where I thought I was worthless and no one would want me. It’s a lie that our particular life programming has told us. It is not the TRUTH.
What are some of the signs of low Self-Esteem?
- Self-criticism, frequently being hard on yourself
- Defensiveness & irritability in general
- Perfectionism
- Pessimism
- Depression
And what are some of the signs of a healthy Self-Esteem?
- Living in the present and not worrying too much about the past or future
- Trusting yourself to solve problems
- Having an understanding of your value- in your family, work place and group of friends
- Trusting in your own judgment even when others may disagree with you
- You are kind and forgiving of yourself
- Learning that you are a Soul, a Spirit, a Wise Woman
How can we increase our Self Esteem to positively affect our Dreams, Goals and Desires?
- The first step is to recognize that you may be down on yourself and not feel very good about yourself
- The next step might be to journal or make a list of all the things you like about yourself or feel good about how you do a certain thing
- Be more assertive, stand up for yourself, your feelings, thoughts, actions
- Learn to say NO. Create healthy boundaries for yourself
- Make a habit of listing 5 things daily that you are grateful for
- Hang with people who are kind and loving to you
- Avoid those people who make you feel less than, not good enough
- Make a challenge for yourself in some area that you want to grow
- Take great care of your body, get regular body movement, fresh air, get in Nature frequently, eat nourishing food, get adequate rest/sleep, have some quiet time daily- cut down on the alcohol, drugs, TV, endless Internet surfing
- Do something for someone less fortunate than you
- Learn how to do EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique/Tapping)- and make a practice for 1 week to do some tapping around your sense of yourself – there all kinds of resources on the web to teach you how to do it
And be amazed at how the world looks different, how you feel different if you implement only a couple of the previous list and do them for the next month.
You have GOT THIS!! I believe in YOU. I know that you are a lovable, beautiful being (inside and out).
You have gifts to give the world.
This place of darkness you may be in now, will pass. There is a bright future ahead of you.
Believe in yourself, know yourself to be a WISE and LOVING WOMAN.
