Self-compassion is a gift we need to give ourselves more often
What causes lack of self-compassion?
What comes up for you when think about self-compassion? Where is it hard for you to find self-compassion?
- Is it around money transactions you have made in the past
- Or having consistency with a morning routine/practice
- Or maybe it is around a habit that you really want to break but have not been able to do it?
- Could it be with a hard relationship that challenges you and you become reactive?
Whatever it is– we all deserve compassion. These places in our lives that we have regrets or where things aren’t going like we want- may have messages for us.
- may be places where we could ask ourselves–if this were someone I cared very deeply for would I be so critical and lack in compassion for them?
We as women have thousands of years of baggage from patriarchy that has belittled us so in many ways.
Pick some area of your life that you could use more compassion and light heartedness.
Then ask your inner wise woman for help to assist you in bringing more heart energy to yourself.
Use the energy of your wise inner woman to guide you in moving towards more compassion for yourself or to help you uncover what may be underneath your lack of compassion for yourself.
Imagine what it will feel like when you give yourself the gift of compassion. What will it feel like in your body?
How will your thoughts and emotions be affected?
Do you get any sense about what might be underneath not giving yourself compassion?
Keep some notes in your journal about it, and see where it might lead you.
This week, try on how wonderful it will feel to truly give yourself the gift of self-compassion. And notice any changes.
Will you sleep better? Will you have more energy? Will you feel more at ease or perhaps more confident at least in that one area that you choose to work on.
And then in the physical world, actually give yourself some sort of gift, a small recognition of your movement towards more self-compassion. It will help ground the compassion more deeply in your psyche.
How do I practice self-compassion?
You can even make a game out of it – next week, choose another area that you would like to have more self-compassion –
- again track how your body feels
- what thoughts come up for you
- do the thoughts change
- the critical mind quiets a bit
- how are you doing emotionally?
Self-compassion is a step on the way to forgiveness.
The more we can bring in this energy to our life,
- letting go
- forgiving ourself for actions, thoughts, emotions
- ways of being that we don’t like
- the more our heart will open, the more secure we will feel in ourselves
And the less overwhelm, chaos and fear we will feel.
Remember Self-compassion is a gift we need to give ourselves more often.
